I just listened to this in its entirety and I am so grateful it came across my path. I love the way he speaks on the 4 mantras. So pure and deliberately. You can tell he is speaking with intention. He is very attuned and precise.
And depending on the consciousness of the other person in each relationship, and how present they were capable of being with true intimacy, the results differed.
And yet the connection that can occur as a result of this honest presence, is a miracle. And that connection is what we fear and crave most in the world.
If your love has pride in it, it is not true love yet. I love how he says yet… as it takes a cultivation between two people, both parties to merge into that deliberately. To dance in the ocean of true love take patience for both people to remember what true love really is. To change their behaviors and alleviate each other’s suffering and be willing to open up and share and be intimate with one another. To give the other person the grace of facing your own pain for the resolution of it. To be present. Fully. In your fullness. In your kingdom. To be at home in yourself and bring peace within takes deep courage. And it is the basis for true intimacy and shared love with another individual. It is so important and so healing that we take time to be in stillness to connect to the deeper values that we share as individuals. To know ourselves so we can understand ourselves fully and teach another soul to understand us and show them how to love who we are.. because we do.. and have practiced loving ourselves mindfully. Only then can we fully commit to the path of being fully present with another.. because we have begun the journey of being in the moment with ourselves. Doing the work on ourselves for each other. This is devotion. This is the peace of true love. This is what I am humbly learning to cultivate within myself so I may be able to understand true intimacy, and explore its expression outwardly. I have yet to experience such a gift. I have definitely had moments and been taught my limits of as well. I love the journey of learning to understand the depths of love’s true nature.. It is a process that matures and ripens like a fruit over time, slowly, deliberately, just as Thich Nhat Hanh speaks. With clarity and precision.
True love is an art we are learning.
What a grace to be that present and share that space with members of our family. There is so much that goes unsaid with those that matter the most to us. We are strangely more comfortable being subtly uncomfortable than being emotionally open and real with each other. Yet it is those expressions of reality that make us feel the most alive.
What if we could sustain greater and greater depths of connection and pure truth with the people that we love?
It’s amazing how breathing restores us. Helps us back to ourselves.
The part that hit me the most I took notes on. I have notes on several parts. I will share.
The fourth mantra is the hardest to do, it is a practice when you yourself suffer and you believe it is the person you love the most that caused the suffering
“Darling I suffer, please help.”
Many people can not do it, because of the pride in their heart.
They hurt very deeply but they prefer to lock away and cry silently and say, “I don’t need you.” “I don’t suffer.”
That is the effect of pride. If pride is there it means that your love is not true love yet.
If you really love him or her then when you suffer you have to go to them and ask for help.
Because a lover is for that.